LOVE MARRIAGE FAILURE

Many people in our society believe Love is the reason to get married. I dispute that reason. (that is not to say that love isn’t part of a good long term marriage)I believe that very often Love is confused with Lust (sexual attraction), Romance, Passion, or Intensity of feelings. In long term marriages those kinds of feelings wax and wane like the cycles of the moon. While there are many personal choices that can be made to keep those feelings strong, even in the best of marriages there are times and circumstances where they just aren’t happening. I believe one of the reasons divorce is so prevelent in our society is that people give up too soon on a good marriage because those feelings just aren’t there anymore. If you base marriage on the love represented by those types of feelings it could be very easy to get caught up in a cycle of marriage, divorce, marriage, divorce, etc. The danger of that is never getting to experience the much deeper feelings or security of longer term love. A love that grows from acceptance, commitment, & shared experiences.